Judging vs exposure

I have found a ridiculous truth about the truth: I remember a number of the situations, when people told me something like "how dare you to judge me" or something like this. The most funny thing is, that most of this people were christians or called themselves so.

I have think and search the Bible for this kind of stuff for some time, and I have come to conclusion, but it will be better to systematize the situations a little.

1)We are living beings. We know that we are doing certain mistakes, and that another people can do the same.

2)Let person A do something called X, and person B see this A doing the X.

3)Let B see this X as something wrong or evil. I have seen fore different consequences of this in my life:

• Person B have not enough strength to face A and to say that X is wrong. And B in number of situations telling C about X and how bad A is. This causes destruction of relations between A and C, usually the destruction between A and B as well.
• Person A have a large authority for B, and B make himself believe that the X is good, going against his faith and heart.
• Person B looks through his believes and finds, that the X was bad for him because of cultural differences or something like this.
• Person B faces person A

4)So in practice (through my and my friends experiences) person B could be honest with himself (which means facing A in most of the situations, for finding the peace for B, and believes checking on difficult situation, but with facing A as well), or to be dishonest with himself and to gossip or to degrade. That means that for being honest with yourself in 99.9% of the situations you need to face A even if you are wrong, otherwise you'll feel guilty, and this is good, because we can not tolerate evil things, and because of our love to the people we want them to be better than they are, we want them to grow.

5)So because of our emotions we can not leave the evil aside without making our character worse. What usually happens when B talks to A about the X?

• "How dare you judge me", "Look at yourself" in another words A don't want to change himself, and there is nothing that B can do, just pray.
• A had had no idea that X is wrong, after some thinking A repents and A is very thankful to B.
• A  knew that the X is wrong, but he has no strength to fight it. B becomes his friend and helps to fight
• A and B comes to a new solution Y on base of the common authority, which is not evil for both of them, they are both happy, and became better.

6)At this point there are no differences between judging and exposure. They are both coming from the conflict of what is good and what is wrong. You as B or A need to do something about the X, if you aren't a "dead" person you won't tolerate the evil and will name things by their names. You can be right or wrong, A could be right or wrong, this is life. If we want our relations to live we need to make them clear. 

For me exposure is to say that X is wrong for me, and if person A names himself as christian I'm usually doing this in the name of our common authority, and checking myself with the Bible.

7)Judging is coming to the game when someone making any kind of sentence: in more than 95% of life situations which I have seen this is breaking of the relations (whatever they are). For example B is saying that A is so evil for him that he don't want to know him, or A is saying that B is too primitive and conservative and so bull that he do not want to know him. I call this "striking out a person from life", which is the same as murdering from Christ's words.

So on the scheme this can look this way:

J: evil thing X by A -> B needs to say to himself is it good or wrong -> B makes sentence

D: evil thing X by A -> B needs to say to himself is it good or wrong -> B saying A that X is wrong (B does not make a sentence)

Of course after the exposure B can make some adjustment's to A's authority in the number of things, but striking out A from the life will be a judging, and also, probably B is the only hope for A to find out the truth and become better. Problem is that A usually don't want to hear it whatever he can say in public.

Warning: the problem is recursive B can see X which has been done by A, and by telling about his vision of the problem to A he will do Y. A can see Y as wrong thing, by this A become B and Y become X in some way. So, it's better to simplify. (: